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A Beginner’s Guide To Rimming — Breaking Down Butt Stuff

A Beginner’s Guide To Rimming  — Breaking Down Butt Stuff

Is the only salad you’ve ever tossed a Kale Caesar? That’s ok. Recently it feels like everyone is talking about rimming, but there’s still a lot of confusion surrounding anal play. One thing’s for sure: stigma and lack of education are preventing a lot of people who who want to try rimming from actually tossing the salad. And since Lorals is all about helping break down the barriers that make people say No when they want to say Yes, we decided to lend a hand in the education department. Without further ado, here is our definitive guide to rimming. Enjoy!


What is rimming? 

Ok, first of all, let’s play Merriam Webster for a minute and get some basic definitions out of the way, in case you thought you were here to read about knitting techniques or something. You may have heard it called anilingus, tossing salad, ass-eating, pink-to-stink, or rimjob. Rimming is what kids these days most often use to refer to stimulating someone else’s anus using your tongue and mouth. It’s not a lot more complicated than that. If it’s mouth on butt, it’s rimming. 

A lot of people focus on licking the outer rim (hence the name), but rimming can also involve dipping inside the booty hole. Many people like licking the perineum — dictionary time: the stretch between the anus and the genitals. Some people like to tease the hole with their fingers. There’s no one way to rim.

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What makes rimming pleasurable? 

Ok, so now you’ve got the what; here’s the why. First of all, there are a ton of nerve endings near the anus that make it a pleasurable honey pot. Not to mention, there’s a possibility of stimulating the G-Spot through anal play as well. Take it from Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., assistant professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Columbia University Medical Center and author of Pleasure, who told SELF, "The tissue between the rectum and vagina is so very thin that sometimes anal pressure is transferred to anterior wall of vagina, stimulating the G-spot very well.” 

Second, there are a lot of psychological reasons people are sexually interested in rimming. If it’s your first time, then the sensation is totally new, which is always fun and interesting to explore. Anal play is also a little taboo, which can be exciting.

How do you rim?

If you’re looking for real down and dirty techniques, grab yourself a copy of The New Sex Bible by Dr. Jessica O'Reilly. She describes such smooth moves as the "slurpee," which is when you thrust your tongue flat against your partner’s asshole, letting it make loud slurping noises: "Slurp away as though you’re sucking on a bottle." Sweet! Another tip? Healthline lets us in on a super seductive take: Your breath against your partner’s skin can be hugely hot, and especially on the thighs or booty. The warm but light sensation really eroticizes the moment. 

We do have one suggestion for you: multi-task. When you perform oral sex on your partner’s genitals, you usually make some sexy eye contact, use your hands to touch other parts of their body while your mouth is going to town, try out some dirty talk, etc. So think of rimming as oral sex, just on the anus. Your tongue is only one part of the equation.


Is there prep work involved?

Cleanliness is an important factor when it comes to rimming, because, bluntly, the proximity to poop can lead to infections if you aren’t careful. So being very clean, especially if you have body hair around the anus, is important. 

Communication is also important. Enthusiastic consent should always be the standard, but when you’re rimming it’s extra important because you can’t always see your partner’s face to read their body language to see cues about what they are and aren’t enjoying. 

Pro tip: if you’re nervous about germs, keep some Lorals handy! Lorals let you feel every single sensation, are stretchy enough to allow some light tongue penetration, but keep bacteria on one side and your partner’s tongue on the other. They’re a perfect way to ease into rimming!


Have fun.

This last one is a statement, not a question. Relax and get silly with it! If you aren’t having fun, then don’t do it. But if you don’t try, then you’ll never know. We hope this article gave you the basic info you need to make like Chopped and toss. that. salad!